I often hear my single friends stated,
"I don't have headache if I don't have a boyfriend, but I do have big big headache if I don't have money"
or in bahasa,
"gue ga pusing kalo ga punya pacar, tapi gue pusing kalo ga punya duit"
at some points I agree with it, yeah its easy to enjoy life no matter what your status is if you have money, moreover if you live in a big city like Jakarta, where daytime is never end.
Even some people are too afraid for getting married coz they are afraid of double costs effect.
ehmm sapa tuh yaaa ;p
Is marriage life will really causing you a double costs?
Is single life means lower costs?
If anybody ask my opinion, this is mine,
I am not going to use any complicated Economic theory, although I got an A score for Economy in the University, well it was the past, I might have better brain at that time, not now :D
I am not going to use the religion perspective too, again, although I got an A for Catholic when I was in Academy and an A score for Islam in University, sorry masbro, maybe I was born half angel ;p ...
In any Religion we do believe that God will give more wealth to those who get married, right..
Well, my opinion here is more likely based on my simple calculation, which everyone can do.. hahaha
Let say I have Rp1000 in my pocket, how will I spend it,
- 200 for saving
- 200 for meals
- 200 for daily purpose (i.e. transportation + charity)
- 200 for entertainment = hobby
- 200 for home & etc
With that 200, I could get 100 plates of good food, each gonna give me 600 calorie, something over than what a body needs, it might cause an obesity for me, then I must convert a part of the entertainment budget into gym, diet or slimming program. Sometime the instant slimming program are so expensive, and you need to reduce your saving part too.
If we have life partner, do you think we will double that 200 on meals? instead we have option to do the other way around,
Share that 100 plates you can buy in a month with your partner, means you decrease your calorie consumption, means you don't need diet or slimming program, while gym or sport budget may still exist to maintain your health.. which means preventing high cost of seeing doctor..
The transportation cost might be shared as well, and if you want to reduce your entertainment cost, you just need to let your partner do stupid thing, and laugh on it, don't worry next time is your turn :D... and the massage sessions for sure, eliminate your Spa budget..
My point is, do not make money as a sizing to determine your happiness, single or married, we shouldn't have headache coz money is something you can manage. Live your own life, be proud with yourself not with what you wear, let people respect you as who you are, you are not a brand ambassador (remember, the brand ambassador get paid, while you must pay). Single or married, if you could manage your costs, then you will be happy, if you expect to spend more then be ready to work harder :)
And I love this old words, its true..